Love Is A Constant Force

Happy June! Where flowers are blooming, couples in love are getting married, high school seniors are attending proms, college students (some graduating!) are taking a breather, and also, of course, last but not least {drum roll, please} Father’s Day arrives on June 17th . And a few days thereafter, we have the Vernal Equinox on June 21st , officially signaling the beginning of Summer. Whew!

I make sure my schedule always is aware of the many happenings that occur in June. For one thing, my mother is a June baby, and I will never forget when I was a teenager, I wanted to give her a surprise birthday party. Well, so many folks were just plain busy. But for the few that did come, I made a cake and instead of putting in baking powder, I added baking soda! Mistakes happen in life.

No matter who we are, or what our status or place is in life, no one is exempt from making mistakes. On the other hand, life’s moments can bring such incredible joy, and provide missing pieces to a puzzle. For example, we can become so connected to someone that he or she is in our hearts every minute of every day, and the thought of them brings us true happiness. Wonderful things like this seem to happen especially in June.

May was not too shabby either. While watching parts of Harry and Megan’s Royal wedding last month, the wedding of the year for sure, I noticed that love was being radiated, and everyone felt it. The connection between these two was quite obvious. Also, their trials and tribulations were similar. Harry’s mother – Princess Diana – is deceased and Megan’s father, while still alive, was not physically present at the wedding. Sad. I can tell you for sure that in connecting with loved ones here and in Spirit, during precious moments like weddings, people want their mothers and fathers to be present. Wonderful that Prince Charles could be there.

Historically speaking, what a VERY different wedding this was! Here we have Prince Harry marrying a successful bi-racial American actress, who is the type of woman his mother Princess Diana said he would marry (according to letters Princess Diana wrote to her son before her death): Someone who is smart, independent, and his equal. (Nevertheless, we know the Queen still had to approve of the marriage.) These are two young Royal people who can make a difference in the modern world. What a couple! And who doesn’t love to see some Love in the news these days?

I know so many people who met and married and knew in their gut that their mothers and/or fathers in Spirit had lent them a helping hand meeting and marrying their spouse. I have no doubt that Princess Diana had finally made this happen for her young son, when he was ready.

As for Megan, well it seems she too was ready to change her life radically, but again loves does that, does it not?

Love is and will always be the most constant force or energy you will have in your life. Love can give you strength you never had, enduring you through times you never thought you could get through. Just as a father often has to do. So this coming Father’s Day, let’s pay a special tribute to all the fathers, grandfathers, great grandfathers, and father figures here in the physical and on the Other Side.

Looking forward to seeing many of you at my upcoming events and small groups in Chicago, Detroit, Albany, Baltimore, and a few locations in MA!

Don’t forget to enjoy the Summer Solstice! Kick up your feet and feel the Love!

Honoring a Mother’s Love

Welcome to the merry month of May, in which we celebrate Mother’s Day! In my work, the busiest times of the year are when my office phone rings non-stop around Christmas and Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day is a hallmark “holiday” that can and does bring up every possible emotion – from intense love to intense anger and everything in between, depending on who you are and what your situation is. Of course if your mother has passed, then even more emotions may rise to the surface. And as I have noticed, losing a mother for many can be painful even twenty-years later.

I recently did a session with three sisters who had just lost their mom. They all lived together. To say the session was intense would be a gross understatement. These three sisters shared the task of caring for their mother who had Alzheimer’s disease. Each of them did their best. One acted a nurse, another handled all the finances, another took care of the household chores. In order to care for their mom, the three sisters needed to take out a reverse mortgage so their mom could stay in the house. These three sisters also gave every penny they had to take care of their mother because they promised their dad that they would never put Mom in a nursing home.

During the session, while connecting to their mom, I listened to the sisters’ describing their emotions and thoughts of devastation and loss. They also wondered whether they had done enough. Now, I can tell you of so many . . . many . . . sessions I’ve experienced where devotion to a mother was the predominant theme, but the devotion of these three sisters clearly placed them in the Top Ten!

The sisters felt such a powerful devotion because their mother had provided them with a wonderful life, and they felt that caring for her when she was ill during the last phase of her life, was the least they could do in return.

A twist on this story involved the fact that there was a fourth sister, who had bluntly stated that she had dealt with Dad, so she would not deal with Mom. The fourth sister also made it very clear that she had her own family (two of the other sisters also had children), a “rich” life, and that she wasn’t going to put her life on hold to help take care of Mom.

The three sisters just couldn’t understand the fourth sister’s not caring. They kept asking me how the fourth sister could do this, noting that it was clear that she had the financial (but maybe not emotional) means to at least pitch-in, in some way.

It was not my role as a medium to understand and judge all that may have transpired among these four sisters. But clearly, there were three out of four sisters who bonded together in every way they could, in honor of and respect for their mother.

This situation was unique because usually the mom sessions involve one sibling holding much of the family together, and acting a guiding force. This session is also an example of what I had indicated previously, that there is a litany of emotions that can arise when a mother dies, within yourself and family members. One thing is for sure, the three sisters will have a bond together for the rest of their lives, given their common devotion and sacrifices made for their mom.

I just couldn’t resist sharing this story during the Month of Mother’s Day. Hope you enjoyed it.

On another note, I don’t want any of the “guys” to feel left out of my Mother’s Day tribute, because I’ve met many devoted sons who have honored their mom by taking care of her during the toughest of times.

Oh, and before I forget, especially during the month of Mother’s Day, let us never fail to thank Mother Earth, the caregiver to us all!

It is my hope that, whatever your personal journey is with your mother, or mother figure who cared for you during your life, send her Love, flowers, notes, and/or whatever she would prefer, and whatever else strikes you, along with a heartfelt Thanks for all your mom provided you! If your mom is on the Other Side, thank her for all she did, and wish her a Happy Mother’s Day – she will hear you, I promise.

So, with that, let’s bring on Spring, Spring, Spring, to celebrate all life!

2018 – An 11/2 Year in Numerology

Happy New Year!

Welcome to 2018, an “11” New Year, because 2+0+1+8 = 11.

In numerology, we usually break down the year to one single digit which 2018 would be “2” since 11 (1+1) = 2. However, since in numerology, the master numbers are 11, 22, and 33, the 11 is not broken down into 2. Thus, we are now in an 11 year, not a 2 year!

Interesting to note that the last time we experienced a Universal 11 Year was not that long ago, in 2009 (when Barack Obama became President of the U.S.). However, the previous 11 year was 99 years before that, in 1910 (when Franklin Delano Roosevelt was elected to New York State Senate.) I think it’s safe to predict that 2018 will prove to be significant year for the entire planet.

Master numbers are very important for our learning and growth, and can bring major transformation and learning into our lives. This year, the world will be experiencing all that a Universal 11 has to offer.

Of course, in all of life’s journeys, there is always more than one element that affects us. Yes, we are in a new vibration, but we are equally experiencing new planetary configurations. Specifically, Saturn will be entering Capricorn whose ruler Pluto is currently also in Capricorn. Pluto in Capricorn is about death, ending, and beginnings. It’s about breaking down old outdated structures, which include governments, corporations, and religion. Capricorn is governed by Saturn which rules foundations, structures, and for many of us, our deepest fears. Although structures don’t change overnight, with Saturn in Capricorn there will be shifts in the world and our personal lives, caused by Saturn, the planet of all major changes. I don’t say that any of this will happen overnight, but changes will be will happening.

Those of you who know your astrological charts and/or numerical charts, realize that if you have planets in Capricorn, or planets that are affected by, or interplay with, Capricorn, then you will for sure feel/see/experience these shifts.

Sometimes the changes are sort of like a volcano – we know something is brewing, but we just don’t know when it’s going to erupt.

Change is often hard for most of us. However, for us to grow emotionally, spiritually, in directions that will benefit where or what we want or desire, change is often needed. The beautiful profound changes that could occur in 2018 may not happen without the Universe waving her magical wand, so to speak.

Think of all the aspects and changes in your life that have occurred in the past that would not have happened without that certain something coming out of the blue.

Remember that even dramatic “negative” changes like a loved one’s death, divorce, or the loss of a job or a home – all painful and dramatic – sometimes do trigger positive developments, like the end of suffering, meeting a new love, finding a more rewarding job or more time for ourselves, or even winding up in a better place to live.

Sometimes out-of-the blue events come on like a dam than can no longer hold back the water, and aspects of ourselves that were perhaps being held back end up bursting out. Trusting and having faith, and knowing that there is a reason why even “negative” events occur, will help you deal with the changes.

In any event, be prepared to welcome whatever 2018 brings your way, because the 11-year vibrations and planetary happenings may affect your life even in ways that you could not predict.

Returning to late 2017 for a moment, I have a Christmas story of my own to share – drum roll please! My last event of the year was in Sturbridge, Massachusetts with Thomas John. This was our second event in 2017 and we received a warm and wonderful Massachusetts’ welcoming. The event was in the evening and when I left it was warm but rainy. Since it was an evening, driving back to NY meant I wouldn’t get home until midnight when it was pitch black.

The next morning when I went to go shopping, I was shocked to discover a huge dent in the rear fender of my brand new car. Out of the blue, right? I had to breathe deep as I was a little freaked out. I decided to call the Publick House where Thomas John and I had done our event, to see if there were any security cameras that might have recorded whatever had happened in their parking lot the night before, or to see if anyone had reported hitting my car, or seeing my car get smashed in the parking lot (there was no note on the windshield). There were around 200 people at our event and many others having dinner there as well – it’s a pretty big place. I asked for the manager and he did call me back several hours later but there was nothing to report.

Soon, I started to look on the less ominous side of things – most notably, apparently no one was hurt. I called my insurance company and put in a collision claim for a hit and run. My body shop guy said it would cost at least $3,000 or $4,000 to repair. “Accept it, and try to let it go,” I told myself.

Then on Christmas Eve day, I was driving to see my mother who was in hospital, soon after her having to put her husband in a home on Thanksgiving. My phone rang and the caller I.D. indicated a Connecticut phone number that I didn’t recognize. I answered anyway. A woman on the other end greeted me and then asked, “What’s your license plate number?” I told her and she said, “I believe I hit your car.” She then added that she had put a note on my windshield explaining what had happened and saying to contact here, but she never heard back. (Apparently in the rain, the note had been washed away.) So she called the Public House and got my phone number. She then gave me all her info, adding that she wouldn’t want someone to do that to her car, and not make things right.

It was then that I realized that this was my best Christmas present for 2017 – and it came in out of the blue.

I say over and over that wherever I go, there are many wonderful people everywhere. Thank God for all the good folks in this world who do wonderful things. In my heart, I feel that this is what most of us are about.

After the phone call, I went on my way with a smile. The experience reminded me of what I had written in my Christmas newsletter about the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life,” which presents how each of us can make a big difference in other people’s lives. The phone call changed my mood and made the trip to seeing my mother in the hospital a whole lot easier (she’s okay, by the way, and her husband is doing well in the home). Just another example of things coming out of the blue, changing the road ahead, and happening for a reason.

Once again, extending my thoughts of love and blessings to everyone for a new 2018 vibration!

I look forward to seeing many of you in my upcoming travels again, or for the very first time. I’ll be in Florida, Toronto, Louisana, Michigan, Minnesota, and Missouri to name a few . . . and of course NY, MA and CT. Check out my website to see if I’ll be showing up near you.

Also, Bill Attride, a wonderful Astrologer, will be on my monthly Blog Talk Radio show on Monday, January 8 at 6 pm EST.

Happy New Year everyone!

It’s a Wonderful Life!

It’s a wonderful life!

I am sure most of you have either grown up with, or at least seen, the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life,” starring Jimmy Stewart. Directed by Frank Capra, the film was released in 1946 but is still a Christmas-time favorite on TV. I know all of you reading this who relate to angels, DP (dead person) experiences, dream visits, synchronicities, etc. can also relate to that movie.

The story is about George Bailey (Jimmy Stewart) who is in a dark mood and wishes that he was never born. An angel (Henry Travers) appears and arranges an alternate reality so that George can witness what life would have been like in his town if he were in fact never born. George observes the alternate reality and realizes all the good he has done, and how many lives he has helped, and how everything would have been very different in a negative way if he had never been born. He wants to go back to his real world, and manages to get there, feeling all the better.

What a wonderful reminder that we must take time to focus on the positive.

I’m also reminded of a quote from Maya Angelou: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Meeting so many of you throughout my travels has made my life more wonderful, and hearing George Bailey-type stories from many of you always warms my heart. Never lose sight of the fact that you make a difference in other people’s lives.

In last month’s newsletter, I talked about this with regard to the fires in Northern California and the hurricanes elsewhere. So many George Bailey-type folks stepped up to help others, and make a difference.

Recently, I was in the doctor’s office doing a routine check-up when one of the technicians came by. I did what I often do, and started a conversation. I learned in a very few minutes that the technician was from Haiti, and that after all these years in New York, she still didn’t like the cold but loved her job. The conversation went from that to how her grandmother would not go to sleep at night until they had a conversation.

The technician went on to say how she grew up in a mud house that her grandfather had built, and how all the family still goes there to carry on traditions, pass down stories, look at the sky, and take in the nature of the island. She stressed that every year she takes her children to her home village where they all engage in family traditions, and show their respect for elders and Nature.

I listened attentively, knowing that I had just shared a bonding moment with a kindred spirit. And like George Bailey, she recognized so many wonderful things about her family. Most impressively, she has been engaging in these family gatherings since she was three years old. That, my friends, is a gift.

As Christmas approaches, the little ones will be looking forward to their holiday gifts. But let us not forget that when the children grow up, and the toys are all but forgotten, what the kids-turned-adults will appreciate most are the happy moments shared with family and close friends, and the differences made in the lives of others – just like George Bailey during his wonderful life.

Looking forward to my last “Home for the Holiday” event in Sturbridge, MA with Thomas John on December 19th. Of course, I’ll also be gearing up for 2018 as well. There will be some new places to attend, and old places to revisit. Looking forward to meeting old and new friends along the way.

Wishing you the best Holiday Season ever. As my special gift to you this season, I’m offering a full hour of readings live on my December radio show! My special guest will be Austyn Wells, spiritual medium and soul gardener. The show will air on Monday, December 11 at 6 pm EST / 3 pm PST on Blog Talk Radio. I hope you will join us!

Pausing, Reflecting, and Moving Forward Into Fall

Hello! We are now, as they say, officially in the Fall Equinox which arrived on September 22, 4:02 PM EST.

Oddly, in the Northeast, the summer wasn’t as hot as usual and September felt more like August! We’ll have to see what the rest of Autumn has in store for us.

I do know this – tomatoes like it warm. In my garden, there was a challenge in that regard, but most everything else was fine. Except of course for the destruction of my cucumbers by a family of woodchucks. I’m sure there are many of you out there who can relate. I see you smiling because you know that story!

I have to pause and send prayers to all those impacted by Hurricane Maria if she in fact landed on your or your family’s or friends’ doorsteps. Goodness gracious! Living in NYC, there are many Puerto Rican folks who call NYC their home. My heart goes out to all of them, and their families and friends in Puerto Rico.

Given that Puerto Rico is, like many of the other islands – St. Thomas, St. John, St. Marten, etc. – so very beautiful, it is so very traumatic to see your native land destroyed. Again, I empathize with all those who have been affected by this tragedy, and all the other recent hurricanes. So many devastating storms this time around. Nothing in recent memory can compare.

However, again, as per my calling, I must reiterate: Remember that our loved ones in spirit had their own conflicts and challenges while here, and they faced all that. For many, facing up to those challenges made them stronger. We can learn from that.

Things can be replaced. People cannot. So when our loved ones cross over, there is no need to try and replace them.

And don’t forget that they are still here, there, and everywhere for us, for they have transcended death while transitioning to the Other Side. Connect with them through your dreams, feelings, and intuition. While no “body” here gets out alive (as Jim Morrison once sang), every soul DOES get out alive (Mr. Morrison missed that point). And, since we are spirits having a human experience, remember that death brings us back to our natural state. So, death ain’t nothing to worry about, even if our animal instincts tell us otherwise.

On another note, I was so warmly received recently in Atlanta and Asheville, such beautiful cities. Gotta love those Blue Ridge Mountains. Loved Tarrytown too – will certainly return!

I will mention again, and for as long as I have a voice – Love is, and will always be, our most prominent constant. No matter where I go, no matter what town, city, state, country, or continent, Love is, and always will be, what we all in one way or another know as the Truth in our hearts. Love is our greatest teacher, pervading all of our thoughts and feelings – consciously or subconsciously – throughout our daily lives.

To be sure, we all have different paths to walk, but if you are open to it, Love will be with you every step of the way. Connect to Love, and you will be the better for it.

And again, welcome to Fall, and all it’s glorious colors and changes. As is customary for me, I’ll be returning to California in October, up North and down South. Looking forward to seeing familiar faces once again, and of course I am totally open and happy to meeting and welcome new folks in my travels.

As the old saying goes, we will keep on keeping on!

How Hurricane Harvey, Lady Gaga, and Love Has Brought People Together

So . . . Are we feeling the “shortest” season fade away? No doubt that this summer was for many very challenging, especially for those impacted by Hurricane Harvey. Whether Harvey was a natural event as the mainstream media states, or a geoengineered event as some experts have found, our hearts and support go out to all those who ended this summer on such a tragic note – loss, loss, and more loss.

The Northeast had the coolest August in like, forever, but we’re not complaining here, since so many places are hurting and need all the love, positive thoughts, and whatever help we can send, in any way.

I personally know people in Houston, about whom I happily can say are okay. Others I know in Louisiana weren’t as lucky.

I’m still waiting for my friends and family on the West Coast to give an update of what is going on there, as I write this. A very difficult and painful time. How do we put it all back together?

Of course, our prayers go out in the hope that family members and friends made it out alive. But if not, we know that they were met by their loved ones on the Other Side. And, believe it or not, tragedies like this are always harder on the folks who survive.

When a tragedy like Harvey strikes, people band together. There are so many wonderful warm and giving folks who step up to the challenge. This moment was no exception.

I can’t tell you if it’s in the air or whatever, but . . . this is a very difficult time to live in. So many people with whom I have come in contact over the last several months have expressed just that.

My thoughts and words previously expressed in other newsletters and in my books, I shall repeat: In the BIG scheme of things, the one constant is Love. Hang on to Love, and it will help you through these very rough times.

Remember that our loved ones in spirit had their own conflicts and challenges while here, and they faced all that. For many, facing up to those challenges made them stronger. We can learn from that.

I am often told wonderful stories about grandparents, great grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc., who endured so much but kept going on. For many, it was the love of their family, and/or other loved ones, that helped them persist.

Things can be replaced. People cannot. So when our loved ones cross over, there is no need to try and replace them. They are there for us, on the Other Side. Connect with them through dreams, feelings, and intuition. As I indicate at my events, every soul gets out alive.

On another note, a quick sharing from one of my 2017 summer highlights. I saw Lady Gaga at Boston’s Fenway Park, the oldest major league baseball park in America. Needless to say, Lady Gaga filled Fenway. She is an amazing talent.

There were many moments that stuck me of her gift of giving every part of herself, but what I didn’t know initially was who “Joanna” was.

I had learned that Lady Gaga’s song to Joanna was a tribute, and when Lady Gaga opened up in song about who Joanna was, I could feel the connection. Joanna was her aunt, her dad’s sister who died when Lady Gaga was three years old. That event impacted her whole life since her father sort of smothered her (they are Italians) because he was so devastated by his sister’s loss. This somehow translated to fear of losing his daughter.

Lady Gaga’s story is one of many similar experiences reflecting how physical loss of a loved one can impact our lives. This was as true for her just it is true for so many of us who have walked a similar path.

However, what was wonderful to me was that Lady Gaga decided to, and did, share her experience with the audience, many of whom, I am sure, totally understood.

This is one thing an effective artist can do, but discussing the death of a loved one is not something many artists dare to share.

Kudos to you Lady Gaga! And as far as the music was concerned, I sat among so many wonderful people who had such a great time. We all did hoop and holler!

One gentleman near me was around 75 years old and wearing a red “Joanna Tour” tee-shirt from Cape Cod. Boy, was he a fan! He knew everything about Lady Gaga and it was he who told me who Joanna was before Lady Gaga shared her story on stage. And when she did share, it was at that moment she asked, “Can you feel all the love in this room?”

Yes! We did! A night I will always remember.

Enjoy the rest of what summer is left. Technically, Autumn doesn’t come until late September.

“All things come to an end,” they say, but never the one thing that is most important: Love.

As far as my Fall travels, I’ll be going to some new places and returning to favorites. I’ll be in Atlanta, Asheville, and Tarrytown this September, and California in October; specifically, Sacramento, LA, and San Diego.

Looking forward as always to seeing some of you for the first time, and others again.

Love Connects Us All!

It’s June! For many, a time to enjoy, directly or through others, a happy graduation! Time also to attend the prom! And, of course, celebrate “Father’s Day!”

For those of you remembering your father, or father figure, who has crossed over, celebrate in a way that makes sense to you and will resonate with him on the Other Side. Send a thought, light a candle, share a memory, raise a glass, and/or do whatever he might like to see you doing – and be as happy as you can. He will appreciate seeing you in a joyful mood.

Ah yes, June! Especially during this month, with Summer on the way, it’s fun, sweet, and so nice to see young people graduating, and attending proms. Nowadays things are a bit more unique, as two girls and/or two boys go to the prom together, as a couple!

Ah, young love, basking today in a moment that someday will be a wonderful memory.

Lately, I can’t help but notice so many young people experiencing what prior generations have experienced – losing friends so young. In the past, much of this tragedy had to do with war, and drugs. And now, for some, that is still the case. So sad that even with the progress we’ve made technologically, there are still cycles of tragedy and sadness that prevail in certain quarters. Very sorry about that.

Yet, there are others who are becoming involved with causes and dedications, and doing what they feel is deeply important, be it anti-war, pro-clean air, and/or or pro- human rights, etc. It is the young who will inherit the future, so let it be that they involve themselves, for they will take the reins eventually. I, for one, send them my blessings.

Remember that wherever we find ourselves now, metaphysically speaking, our souls chose to be here, present in this time in history, following the paths our souls – AKA, our higher selves – have chosen. Wherever we are, it is up to each individual to step up and face the soul’s chosen journey. Not an easy task. Planet Earth is a tough learning school. But it’s all about taking responsibility.

Yes, so many young people doing amazing things. And, of course, ultimately, it’s all about Love, which hopefully can be a light for those wandering through a dark tunnel.

On another note, for you lovers of the animal kingdom, here is a story taken from an article written by Laura Goldman, published in Care2Causes in April, 2017. (Original article published here.)

For 20 of the 21 years she’d been in captivity at SeaWorld San Diego, a polar bear named Szenja shared her enclosure with her best friend, another female bear named Snowflake.

After losing her appetite and energy, Szenja died “unexpectedly” on April 18, according to SeaWorld officials. But based on what had recently happened to Szenja, her death should hardly be considered “unexpected.”

[Previously] In late February, SeaWorld [had] transferred Snowflake to the Pittsburgh Zoo & PPG Aquarium in an effort to be bred. Many people urged Sea World not to separate the best friends. You just can’t separate best friends after a 20-year friendship.

Yes, animals and humans can, and do, die of a broken heart.

Another example of how relationships matter so very much, even in the animal kingdom. Let us not forget that we humans are animals, and that life can and does often change on a dime.

One thing that will never change is Love. And those memories that Love can inspire. No one can take those memories from you, no one. They are filed away in your heart, mind, and soul forever.

So much is going on for me lately, I can’t describe it all here, at this moment. Very much looking forward to seeing many of you at the Afterlife Conference in Portland. After that, I’ll be jetting to NJ, Baltimore, and Rochester. Very excited indeed.

Oh, and yes, don’t forget to smell the flowers! It’s June, after all.

Spring is Just Around the Corner!

Yay! Spring is just around the corner. The vernal equinox is due to arrive on March 20th, just three days after we get to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day. And celebrate we will!

So excited that Spring is on the way!

Spring of course means different things to different people, but one thing is for sure – we all feel in one way or another that Spring is a time of re-birth and new beginnings. A time that can put a smile on your face and a skip in your step, as Nature begins to turn a rich and luscious green. Also a time to wipe away those tears if you’ve endured the loss of a loved one over the winter, or during this past year.

After one of my recent events, a woman to whom I had delivered a message came up to me. It was clear that she needed a hug. No questions needed to be asked, nor statements made. As the tears rolled down her cheeks, she shared how this had been a very hard year for her. She lost not only her dad, but a dear friend, and her nephew as well. Her sister and daughter had attended the event with her and it was a very intense experience for all of them.

Interestingly, I find it not uncommon for families to suffer several losses in a row. When someone is just trying to deal with a passing, there is soon another one right after, or as was in this family’s case, three within a year.

The woman told me that her son was having a very hard time adjusting to his cousin’s passing in particular, and was pulling away from the family. She and I talked about it and how this was when the family needed to be there for him. Hugs would be good medicine.

One thing was for sure, the young man is very sensitive. And if there is one thing I can share that is critically important, it is that boys who are very sensitive have it much harder in this world, there being a certain macho expectancy of young men in our society.

Fortunately for this young man, his mother gets it, and has been very much there for him in letting him know how important family is. He recognizes their love for him and that they are there to help him through. Interestingly enough, the young man is also very close to his aunt, the mother of his deceased cousin. So, he is blessed to have not only a loving mom but also a very caring aunt and others to help him process his grief.

I have no doubt that after these three passings, the family will very much be looking forward to Spring and all its beauty. Fortunately, they live in a part of the country where Spring in always a joyous welcoming.

In the U.S., the overall population doesn’t deal very well with physical death, which is a reaction that is very different from so many other cultures I’ve encountered around the world.

None of the feelings of grief after losing a loved one come with a manual, and we all need to deal with and process grief in our own way. But dealing with death is part of the journey we all signed up for. Fortunately, I have been honored to be able to make things easier for so many by connecting those still here with their loved ones in Spirit, and sharing precious moments.

With Spring on her way, and anticipating those feelings of new birth, I am reminded that our loved ones want us more than anything to value our lives, and be happy. Of course there will be ups and downs, bitter and sweet moments, but it is all about the cycle of life. Our DPs want to remind us that they are literally there in Spirit when we take our walks, look at their photos, or just flash on a memory, maybe like the time we laughed so hard that we peed our pants. Most importantly, they want us to continue to feel the love we still share with them. It is all of these little things that are really SO BIG – fond memories and continuing enjoyment that no one can ever take away.

Recently, I was interviewed by a doctor who had been woken up during the night by her house lights flashing. She was sure it was her mom, who has crossed over, telling her to visit her niece who was in the hospital with terminal cancer. Although the doctor knew that her mother wanted her to go see her niece, she had second “logical” thoughts, and considered discussing the situation with others. Fortunately, she decided against consulting with anyone, feeling she would have been talked out of making the trip to the hospital. Instead, she followed her first impression – first impressions usually being a very reliable indicator when receiving messages from beyond.

The doctor went to the hospital and learned that her niece hadn’t eaten in a week, and that the staff felt she was on death’s door. Upon seeing her aunt arrive, the niece sat up in the bed, and ordered a mega meal for both of them. They ate, laughed, and joyously shared their bond of love. Later the aunt told me over and over that she was so glad she trusted the message she knew was coming from her mom on the Other Side.

And that my friends, is a memory the good doctor will treasure forever. It also serves as a reminder to listen to those messages that ring so true. If you’ve never done so, give it a try this Spring. And, of course, appreciate the blooming flowers, and watch how Mother Earth works her magic, and creates such awesome beauty. If you have the will and opportunity, plant those seeds of whatever it is you want to have grow. Take care of your project, and enjoy a most wonderful mystery of Nature.

Let me end by saying that I’ve got so many wonderful events coming up, from the West Coast, to the Midwest, to the East Coast. Please check my website for details. Looking forward to seeing all of you, be it for the first time, the tenth time, or whatever.

Tolerance, Gratitude, and What’s Really Important

Welcome to December 2016, the last month of the year!

Last month, we celebrated Thanksgiving, hopefully along with those in our lives whom we love and care for. Soon it will be time for Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Mawlid, and other special December events. Of course, this doesn’t mean we have to share the same beliefs with those who are present at the dinner table, but we should at least respect, and especially not ridicule, those relatives and friends who follow a different religion or spiritual path.

I have many friends in education, especially in NYC, “where the world lives,” (or so they say), who often share that a key issue encountered with their students is that the kids often disagree with one another, and get passionate about their beliefs. Good educators teach that there is no good reason to mock another’s belief system. Instead, effective educators teach kids to be kind to one another.

Naturally, learning begins at home. I truly admire parents who teach their children how to behave properly. I recently read an article by a mother who has two daughters – one is Chinese, and the other is a lesbian. The mother came from parents who taught her the importance of tolerance and respect for others. She was recently concerned that the differences between her children could cause problems. She nonetheless felt gratitude for being afforded the opportunity to live her life in this country. She is first generation and her parents instilled in her this gratitude.

For example, speaking up for someone who is weak and has been dissed by another is a kind and courageous thing to do. And I’m sure that I don’t have to remind you how bullying is a major problem. Standing up to bullies is not easy, but it can and should be done. Less difficult would be the simple act of thanking someone for holding open a door, which will elevate your and his or her spirits. Or helping an elderly person with those packages that she can hardly handle, given her struggles with the walker. This is what our end-of-the-year holidays are a reminder of – being kind.

I’m sure also that most of you realize how important it is to give at this time of the year, especially to those who are likely to receive little or nothing, unless you contribute. We all know how hard it is for children who are of lesser means to see other relatively “rich” children get so many more toys than they seem to need. See what you can do about that by helping a poor child in your neighborhood, and/or by contributing to a worthwhile charity that cares for children.

Also, think back. Do you really remember all the toys you got as a kid? Were those toys more important to you in the long run than the thoughts behind them? Do you agree that, as Maya Angelou once said, “I may not remember exactly what someone said, but I remember how they made me feel”?

We are all here together. We are not isolated. Every smile, action, and even thoughts can create a positive change in those with whom we interact.

Would each of us not give away all those lovely presents we have received over the years, to spend just one more holiday moment interacting here in the physical with a loved one who has already transitioned? To experience one more opportunity to feel their presence, hear them laugh, or even argue – just to be close again? Well, cheer up! Your departed loved ones ARE around you, especially at this time of the year. Open your hearts, relax, believe, and feel their presence. A toast of wine to them would also help.

This is what December is all about – a reminder of the things that are truly important – those moments of loving, connecting, and sharing happy memories that are ours forever. Treasure these moments – no one can take them away from you.

Everywhere I go in my line of work, so many faces I encounter, no matter where, over and over again, reveal a sense of loss of missing that special person who has crossed over. But please do remember this: those who have made their transition are in a better place.

Earth is a learning school. We are spirits having a human experience. When the experience is over here, we shed our costumes (bodies) and ascend to our natural spiritual state. What matters most is that we know in our hearts that regardless of how difficult it is to endure physical endings, Love goes on in the Spiritual, and that we will all be reunited with our loved ones eventually.

Our loved ones want us to know that, and to not lose sight of this perspective. They are doing fine. So enjoy life while you can, and as much as you can!

Remember, there is always something to be grateful for, even after Thanksgiving has passed. And although the loss of a loved one can be most difficult, we need to face the difficult fact that we can’t change what has occurred.

However, even if you are a skeptic, you can change your beliefs and thoughts to realize that Love goes on even after physical death. Once you recognize this reality, and feel it in your heart, you will join those of us who know beyond a shadow of a doubt that while the passing of a loved one is often very difficult to endure, and that the grief must be processed, we can deal with such a loss knowing that we will be reunited with our beloved DPs (dead persons) in the future. And meanwhile, they are here watching over us. Rest assured.

On another note . . . I’m often asked about the little things we can do, to help us and others enjoy the holiday season. Here are my suggestions:

  1. Hug those you love and those who need love. Thank them for being in your life.
  2. Make a list of those for whom you want to shop, and/or those you want to touch, during this season of kindness and Love. Remember that shopping for others need not involve elaborate gifts. Effective shopping can be for food that folks need, or for plants to cheer them up.
  3. Send out cards, with candle lighting announcements, to those you know will be touched by your efforts.
  4. Purchase and give candles to your family and friends to burn throughout the months, to remind them, if they are among those who need to be reminded, that Love is immortal. Let them celebrate the lives of those who we know are with us in the spiritual, even if we can’t see them.
  5. Prepare and mail out cards (or texts, or emails) to those who lost someone recently, and are in a state of grieving, while acknowledging their profound grief. Include a personal message, if you have something gentle and positive to say.
  6. Decorate your living space in a way that makes people smile when they enter. And if it suits you, make your home smell of nature, preferably with a plant still growing in the earth, instead of one that has been chopped down and separated from the earth.
  7. Redecorate your living space in honor of those DPs you love, if they loved decorating while here in the physical.
  8. Plan and carry out random acts of kindness – most importantly, in ways that your dear departed loved ones would most appreciate and admire.
  9. Call, or visit, those that you feel a connection to, and/or who may be lonely.
  10. Know always in your heart that your departed loved ones hear you and laugh with you in joy as you think positively of them during the holiday season.

Enjoy December! It’s one of the most special months of the year. Reflect on all the events, connections, and gifts of gratitude you have received in 2016. And be thankful.

And with regard to those experiences that were difficult, remember . . . we are like old-fashioned photographs, in that we develop from the negative.

True love is forever. From my heart to yours.

The Special Bond of Fathers and Children

Welcome to June, and of course, the upcoming Vernal Equinox which arrives June 20th.

During the Vernal Equinox, day and night are each approximately 12 hours long (with the actual time of equal day and night, in the Northern Hemisphere, occurring a few days before). The sun crosses the celestial equator going northward, rises exactly due east, and sets exactly due west.

For all you season lovers, and especially those who are longing for summer – well . . . it’s coming up and you’re going to hit the jackpot. A wonderful time for graduations, weddings, and for me always, a very personal Father’s Day.

As I always say, one of the most special privileges I have in doing the work I do is connecting with people’s departed loved ones. Recently, I was doing a session where a young mother had just lost her father. Her having a newborn daughter actually added to the woman’s missing her dad, for she was feeling that he wouldn’t be around to see his granddaughter. Of course, we know that “Grandpa” will be around – although not in the physical way that his daughter would want him to be. I remember her words in describing her father and they stuck with me. I found them in one way to be very profound in the energy they carried, and in another way the perfect description of what a father means to so many of us. She said, in a very special way, “He was the salt of the earth!” When she spoke these words, I “breathed” them in and felt how wonderful this young woman’s childhood had been with her dad, and how that magnificent experience will be in her heart and soul throughout her life, and after. Although she is sad that her dad has passed over to the Other Side, it is so beautiful that she experienced the love of such a man, and grew up being “Daddy’s Girl.”

I will tell you that in my many travels, connecting with people all over the world, and beyond, there are some pretty wonderful dads out there who have been just as special. Another example: I was just recently doing my Mother’s Day show, and there was a woman there who made a comment: “Why don’t you do a ‘Father’s Day’ show?” Not a bad idea! But . . . there were many chuckles in the room, even among the DJs – I guess because the work I do is not as appreciated among the males of the species as it is among the females. But honestly, truth be told, there are many dads, brothers, sons, and boyfriends – guys – who get it! And even if they don’t get it, they have worked tirelessly and endlessly to make sure that their moms, sisters, girlfriends and daughters, are provided with evidence of Love. That is, these guys have been “taking care” of their gals in the best ways that they can. And so, at the event, I gave everyone an opportunity to “shout out” how much every dad was appreciated.

Fathers and mothers – where would we be without them?

And of course there is Mother Earth, whom I always honor, even on Father’s Day. For it is she who feeds, clothes, and houses us . . . together with Father Sun beaming down upon us, making this Planet Earth of ours . . . inhabitable.

I would like to personally pay tribute to all those organizations and everyday citizens who are devoted to taking care of Mother Earth. I speak for the many who were so hopeful after the G12 conference in Paris, with people from all over the world coming together and making a pact to do the right thing in lowering greenhouse gases, and whatever else needs to be done in those places facing drought or other scarcities.

In this vein, let me share that I was recently watching a documentary about Kansas farmers whose farm had been in the family for five generations. The current owners, young sons and daughters, know that unless there is a change in the water situation, they will no longer be able to provide for their families. The crisis goes on in so many areas. I could relate. During a recent visit to KC, I had a few in-depth conversations with the folks there about water. I know what that Kansas family is facing.

Water isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity for all living things. I know water is a “cause” for many, and especially for folks who live in arid parts of the world. For they are facing extreme challenges.

From wherever you are, do all you can do personally, and in your morning and/or evening prayers, don’t forget Mother Earth, especially on Father’s Day.

Please allow me to conclude this month’s newsletter with a GREAT BIG “THANK YOU” to Terri Daniel for yet another wonderful Afterlife Conference. I can’t begin to share all of the inspiring words that I heard throughout the event, many of which were spoken to me personally. The conference was so very important for so many. It was my honor to have participated. If you are wondering whether you should attend next year, don’t worry. Just go! You won’t be sorry.

Oh . . . at the conference, a woman from Canada came up to me and said that she would not have known about the conference if I hadn’t mentioned it in my newsletter. So glad to hear that! She had a great time. Maybe next time, that will be you! Next year the event will be in Portland. I will remind you.

As I write this newsletter, it’s that kind of day here in the Northeast where if you’re near the ocean, lake, pond or pool . . . jump in!

Have a happy June! Enjoy your fun in the sun and Father’s Day celebrations – even if your dad is on the Other Side. He will be watching over you. Guaranteed!

Please check my calendar for my upcoming summer events. I’ll keep you all posted! Meanwhile, for those of you in Baltimore, since I didn’t make it to you this past December, I’ll be doing a Saturday afternoon event June 18th. Again, please check my calendar for details.